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Hello, I am a marital therapist, communications trainer and author. I have thirty-five years helping couples and individuals make better relationships. I have written twenty-plus self-help books which include the international best-sellers ‘I love you but I’m not in love with you’ and ‘How can I ever trust you again?’ My books have been translated into twenty languages. I trained with RELATE the UK’s largest counselling charity. Perhaps it has been turning sixty but I have become interested in spiritual as well as psychological questions. Who am I? What are my values – as opposed to my parents, my teachers and the wider society? What makes my life meaningful? What do I believe about life, the universe and everything? Although my clients might come to me because of destructive arguments, falling out of love and infidelity, they are also interested in having more meaningful relationships and a more meaningful life. So what is the meaningful life? Why do we so easily lose our way and get lost in depression, anxiety, doubt, addictions and obsessions: the swamplands of the soul? One thing I know for sure is that there is not one answer. Each of us has to find out for ourselves what makes our life meaningful. But we can learn from each other, share our experiences of how to navigate the journey, how to endure and learn from the swamp, and finally how to find solid ground. I have decided to use my original training in radio and journalism to interview witnesses for what makes life meaningful. Each week, I invite someone who is a therapist, academic, self-help coach or who has an enlightening personal story to share their knowledge or experiences. I hope our discussions will help you discover what makes your life meaningful and find more purpose and contentment.
Episodes
Mar 15, 2021
Mar 15, 2021
46 min
Our parents’ divorce can have so many ramifications, some of which don’t become apparent until well into adulthood. How do we face up to and understand the unprocessed pain of divorce? How do we build more successful relationships of our own?
Terry Gaspard specialises in helping clients overcome the legacy of their parents’ breakups in order to build strong, happy relationships. Terry is also an expert on second marriages - these have a higher divorce rate than first marriages, but with support and skills, can bring a huge amount of happiness.
Terry is a licensed therapist, author, and college instructor who works with children, adults, couples, and families. She also works from personal experience: her own parents divorced when she was ten, and she herself went through a divorce, and went on to make a very happy second marriage. Her book Daughters of Divorce is co-written with her own daughter.
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- Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.
- Read Terry Gaspard’s books The Remarriage Manual and Daughters of Divorce
- Find out more about Terry on her website
- Find Terry’s articles published in Patheos.com, TheGoodMenProject.com, The Gottman Institute Relationship Blog, DivorcedMoms.com, DivorceMagazine.com and marriage.com
- Follow Terry on Twitter and on Facebook
- Andrew and Terry also discussed the books Second Chances: Men, Women and Children, A Decade After Divorce by Judith S. Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee and Generation at Risk: Growing Up in an Era of Family Upheaval by Paul R. Amato and Alan Booth.
- Read Andrew’s book I Love You But I’m Not in Love with You: Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship
- Read Andrew’s book on turning things around in midlife Wake Up and Change Your Life: How to Survive a Crisis and be Stronger, Wiser and Happier
- Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook and YouTube.
Mar 8, 2021
Mar 8, 2021
42 min
When did you last learn to do something totally and utterly new? Tom Vanderbilt, author of Beginners: the Joy and Transformative Power of Lifelong Learning, was awestruck by his young daughter’s insatiable need to know how to do almost everything. He was inspired to embark on a year of learning purely for its own sake.
Tom had a truly unique year - a circuitous journey of learning, in which he attempted to learn chess, singing, surfing, drawing and juggling. These skills were chosen on the basis of difficulty and lack of marketability.
Close encounters with scorpions aside, Tom found that his new sense of curiosity opened him up to a profound happiness and a deeper connection to the people around him. By reinventing himself in small ways, life began to seem more magical.
In this episode Andrew and Tom talk about just why it is that so many of us stop learning new skills as adults. While we’re encouraging our children to be adventurous and to try new things, are we ourselves afraid of failure? Have we forgotten the pleasure and rewards of starting from scratch?
Follow Up
- Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.
- Learn more about Tom Vanderbilt’s book Beginners: the Joy and Transformative Power of Lifelong Learning
- Follow Tom Vanderbilt on Twitter or Instagram @tomvanderbilt
- Andrew and Tom also discuss Range: Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World by David Epstein.
- Find out more about dealing with midlife and the relationship issues it can cause in Andrew’s book It’s Not a Midlife Crisis, It’s an Opportunity
Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on:
Mar 1, 2021
Mar 1, 2021
49 min
Are you living a life you really believe in, or are you filling in time until your “real life” begins? Are you waiting on marriage, a better job, a new exercise regime or a beautiful house to create an authentic life?
Humans do need to have goals and plans, but it is also destructive to ignore those inner voices telling us what would bring us individual meaning. Instead of putting off developing an authentic self, it is almost always possible to start planning and creating right now.
Philip Carr-Gomm is an expert in psychosynthesis, an “awe-inspiring territory that has the power to transform us”. He believes that something magical happens when the worlds of modern psychology and ancient spiritual teachings are brought together. Philip has studied Druidry extensively and from 1988-2020 was the leader of The Order of Bards, Ovates and Druids. He has a degree in Psychology and has trained in psychotherapy, play therapy, Montessori education, yoga nidra, mindfulness meditation and Sophrology. Philip recently created an online school, The Art of Living Well, to offer courses combining psychological and spiritual understanding.
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- Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.
- Take a look at Philip Carr-Gomm’s website
- Find out more about the courses offered at Philip’s online school, The Art of Living Well
- Follow Philip on Instagram at @philipcarrgomm and on Facebook at @philip.carrgomm
- Read Andrew’s book Resolve Your Differences: Seven Steps to Dealing with Conflict in Your Relationship
- Read Andrew’s blog on journaling and find out how writing can help you bring more meaning into your life.
Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on:
Feb 22, 2021
Feb 22, 2021
53 min
Fenella Hansen brings her own life experiences of grief, loss, mental health and trauma to her counselling work. After losing her mother to cancer, she made a dramatic career change from IT into counselling, and has since worked extensively with survivors of various forms of trauma.
Fenella has herself also suffered medical PTSD and family violence, which she believes gives her a unique perspective and level of empathy in her work with her clients.
Fenella worked in mental health for 7 years before moving to work with survivors of childhood sexual abuse. She has worked with complex trauma clients and is also a trained expert in trauma sensitive yoga and mindfulness. Fenella has her own private practice in Melbourne, and is currently training in psychedelic therapy.
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- Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.
- Find out more about Fenella’s counselling practice
- Learn about the course in psychedelic therapy Fenella is currently studying.
- Follow up on some trauma resources discussed in this episode / recommended by Fenella:
- The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van der Kolk.
- Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine
- Psychedelics: Where we are now, why we got here, what we must do by Sean J. Belouin & Jack E. Henningfield.
- Some useful breathing exercises
- Follow Fenella on Instagram @betweenthelinestherapy
- Read Andrew’s book Wake Up and Change Your Life: How to Survive a Crisis and be Stronger, Wiser and Happier
- Get Andrew’s advice on dealing with painful feelings: https://andrewgmarshall.com/seven-ways-to-cope-with-painful-feelings/
Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on:
Feb 15, 2021
Feb 15, 2021
51 min
We all think of infidelity as something that happens to someone else. When betrayal enters our own safe universe, it comes as a terrible shock. Many couples confronting infidelity end up re-examining just about everything in their lives: not just their marriage, but their work, their relationships with family and friends, and how they find meaning and fulfilment. Sometimes it can even be these couples who end up with the strongest partnerships of all.
Dr. Caroline Madden, PhD is a Los Angeles based pro-marriage therapist who specializes in helping marriages recover after infidelity. Caroline is the author of several relationship books including: "Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband?" and "After a Good Man Cheats: How to Rebuild Trust & Intimacy With Your Wife” and “Blindsided by His Betrayal”.
In this episode, Caroline and Andrew draw on decades of shared experience working with couples affected by infidelity. They talk through the complex, painful process of rebuilding after the discovery of betrayal.
Follow Up
- Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.
- Listen to Caroline’s book Blindsided by Betrayal on Audible, and take a look at her other books, Fool Me Once: Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband? and After a Good Man Cheats: How to Rebuild Trust & Intimacy With Your Wife
- Find out more about Caroline’s work with infidelity survivors on her website
- Follow Caroline on Twitter
- Read Andrew’s books on infidelity recovery:
Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on:
Feb 8, 2021
Feb 8, 2021
50 min
Dena Justice’s lifelong interest in mentoring and coaching began at age seven, when she took her first social-emotional training program. At 15, she taught her first personal development course. She has undertaken years of training in conflict management and mediation, leadership, communication, facilitation, and has two Master’s degrees.
Despite loving her career, Dena hit a point where she felt empty - a classic case of a high performer and leader hitting burnout. That led her to choose a powerful pivot out of her J-O-B and into her own business.
At the same time, Dena also consciously decided to up-level ALL of her relationships, including spending 3 years intentionally single so she could identify and change the patterns she was repeating that were contributing to relationship dissatisfaction. Now she is in the most amazing relationship with a man she loves more than anything. And all of the other relationships in her life are incredible.
Combining all of her experience, Dena now helps other women who are high performers hitting burnout and are scared to admit they’ve hit a plateau or a wall. She helps them get out of their own way and move to the next level to increase their impact so they feel fulfilled and inspired again, as well as helping them create the relationships they want in their lives.
Follow Up
- Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.
- Take a look at Dena’s website and courses:
- Follow Dena on social media:
- FB: @denajustice
- IG: @denajusticepsychedelicministry
- Clubhouse: @psychedelicNLP
- Read Help Your Partner Say Yes Andrew’s book on achieving better communication and cooperation with your partner.
- If you’re struggling to connect with your partner and are labouring under the strain of work and parenting, read Andrew’s blog “Three Secrets of a Happy Relationship”
Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on:
Feb 1, 2021
Feb 1, 2021
54 min
What is it like to step away from individual freedom and enter into a life of submission and domination? This week’s witness is Slave Phil, a writer, blogger and podcaster at Master Slave Lifestyle.
From early childhood, Phil was drawn to being controlled and dominated by others. At the age of eighteen, he began exploring the master slave lifestyle. For Phil, this was “part of his soul”, not just play or an aspect of his personality.
Phil talks with Andrew about the ways in which this lifestyle challenges social norms - why WOULD someone want to be controlled? For Phil and others who live this way, being controlled and shaped by another person brings the freedom of letting go of responsibility. Compared to conventional relationships, the rules of engagement are written down, discussed and regularly reviewed, rather than being invisible, confusing and often outdated.
Follow Up
- Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.
- Visit Pink Therapy to find kink aware therapists and advice.
- Take a look at Slave Phil’s website, Master Slave Lifestyle
- Follow Slave Phil on Twitter at @Brotherhood_SM
- Put the spark back in your relationship with Andrew’s book Have The Sex You Want
- Read Andrew’s advice on what to do if your partner says the passion is gone
Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on:
Jan 25, 2021
Jan 25, 2021
48 min
What does gratitude actually mean? It isn’t just about being nice or saying thank you a lot. According to Chester Elton, who has been called “the apostle of appreciation”, gratitude cuts to the heart of who we really are. Gratitude exists at an emotional level and is about who is in our lives, what we find meaningful and how we live.
If we make time for gratitude, we can find a way to live that makes everything less stressful. In this episode, Chester and Andrew talk through the ways we can build gratitude into everyday life, adding meaning and lightness to our daily routines.
Chester has also carried out extensive research into how gratitude can help us lead in the workplace. His books, co-authored with Adrian Gostick, include Leading With Gratitude and All In: How the Best Managers Create a Culture of Belief and Drive Big Results.
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- Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.
- Read Chester Elton’s Leading with Gratitude Book
- Sign up for Chester Elton’s free LinkedIn newsletter, The Gratitude Journal
- Read Chester Elton’s article on Why We Should be Grateful for Hard Times
- Read Jay Shetty’s book Think Like A Monk: Train Your Mind for Peace and Purpose Every Day
- Read Andrew’s advice on keeping a journal of your life and emotions.
- Get Andrew’s advice on creating real change in your life and relationships in his book Wake Up and Change Your Life: How to Survive a Crisis and Be Stronger, Wiser and Happier
Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on:
- Twitter https://twitter.com/andrewgmarshall
- Facebook https://www.facebook.com/AndrewGMarshallTherapy
- YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCF5gT7ru5sblpFaU2-iWTTw
Jan 18, 2021
Jan 18, 2021
44 min
You exist at your own centre; so you are the only one who is in the right place to look and understand your individual being. Richard Lang has devoted his life to exploring and teaching “the headless way”: a unique system to answer the question of what life means and who you really are.
Richard met Douglas Harding, author of On Having No Head, as a teenager, and knew immediately that the headless way was what he had been looking for. He now runs workshops on the headless way, produces videos, and has set up the Shollond Trust, which publishes Douglas Harding’s and other books on the subject.
Along the way, Richard has also spent thirty years practising as a psychotherapist, and teaching Tai Chi and dance.
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- Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.
https://www.patreon.com/andrewgmarshall - Learn more about the headless way, including free resources and meetings: www.headless.org
- Find books on the headless way:
- Seeing Who You Really Are https://www.headless.org/harding-books/seeing-who-you-really-are
- Open to the Source https://www.headless.org/harding-books/open-to-the-source
- Celebrating who you are https://www.headless.org/harding-books/celebrating-who-we-are
- The Man With No Head https://www.headless.org/harding-books/the-man-with-no-head
- Everyday Seeing https://www.headless.org/harding-books/everyday-seeing
- Listen to the Headless Way podcast: https://www.headless.org/headless-way-podcasts
- Find videos on the headless way on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/profile?user=headexchange
- Listen to Andrew’s interview with Martina Schneider on spiritual therapy: https://themeaningfullife.podbean.com/e/ep11-martina-schneider-spiritual-therapy/
- Get Andrew’s advice on creating real change in your life and relationships in his book Wake Up and Change Your Life: How to Survive a Crisis and Be Stronger, Wiser and Happier
https://andrewgmarshall.com/book/wake-up-and-change-your-life-how-to-survive-a-crisis-and-be-stronger-wiser-and-happier/
Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on:
Jan 11, 2021
Jan 11, 2021
46 min
How do we find meaning out of a difficult childhood and a troubled mother-daughter relationship? In this episode Nigerian-American writer, mindfulness practitioner and educator Itoro Bassey speaks with Andrew about how to mother the wounded child inside.
Itoro now lives in Nigeria (after being born and raised in the USA) and is the founder of the digital course, From Surviving to Thriving: Becoming Your Own Inner Author. This course uses writing and energy work to bring students into the present moment.
Itoro has published on culture, identity, and healing for over ten years and now offers intuitive counselling sessions for those in need of support.
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- Join our Supporters Club to access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.
https://www.patreon.com/andrewgmarshall - Follow Itoro Bassey on Instagram or contact her at itoro.paula@gmail.com
- Read some of Itoro’s writing on culture, family and identity:
- Read about Questions for Ada by Ijeoma Umebinyuo
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/26141400-questions-for-ada - Read Andrew’s memoir on the loss of his partner, My Mourning Year
https://mymourningyear.com - Get Andrew’s advice on dealing with painful feelings:
https://andrewgmarshall.com/seven-ways-to-cope-with-painful-feelings/
Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on: